We had to turn it down. :(
It was $6,250 above our budget. We had some flexibility with our budget, but this was just higher than we felt comfortable going. It sucks that it comes down to money.
Sigh. So, the wait continues.
Extra note - the reason the match was so high was because the mother had private insurance instead of medicaid. So we would be responsible for co-pays/coinsurance for labor/delivery + insurance on the baby before discharge. The baby would not be added to our insurance until discharge.
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Well, that's bittersweet, I suppose. It's wonderful that someone picked you and connected with your profile. That's exciting.
ReplyDeleteBut, I am sorry that the money didn't work out.
I have heard it's best to err on the side of comfort as things can go a lot higher than anticipated. That must have been a tough decision.
Hope you get some good news soon!
Oh that sucks, I'm sorry! But very nice that someone picked you. I'm curious, what makes one match higher than another by $6K?
ReplyDeleteHope you hear about something that works very soon!
I'm so sorry, Rach. :( But I completely get the financial side of it. We have a point we absolutely cannot go over and I know it'll be hard to stick to, but it will also be worth it.
ReplyDeleteThinking of you and hoping that the right match comes along soon!
I'm so sorry that it does have to come down to money...things just never seem fair do they. It IS however so sweet and fantastic that your profile was the one chosen. I'm sure your baby is going to be going home with you very soon!
ReplyDeleteOh Rach, I'm so sorry. I hate that finances have to factor into our decisions with simply wanting to create our families.
ReplyDeleteHopefully the perfect match is just around the corner!
Oh, sweetie, that sucks. But it also means that someone will want you to raise their babe, which is fantastic!
ReplyDeleteOh honey I am sorry to hear that. Thinking of you and wishing you the very best.
ReplyDeleteThat really sucks that you weren't able to continue forward with it, but how promising that you were matched already! I think another family is right around the corner for you!
ReplyDeleteVery sorry to hear that. I don't understand how adoption can get to be so very expensive. BTW, are you a member of your agency's forum? I thought I saw a post about a similar situation recently. I'm a lurker but I rarely post because we haven't really started the adoption process yet.
ReplyDeleteAhh, so close. I'm sure that was a tough decision but it's good that you have boundaries... stuff can get out of control otherwise. The right time will come soon and you should feel confident since you have been matched. We'll keep praying for the perfect match!
ReplyDeleteWhat a hard decision that must have been. Sending you good thoughts for the right match to come your way soon.
ReplyDeleteOh I'm so sorry babe.
ReplyDeleteThat is sooo disheartening. I hate that building a family has to be so stressful, emotional and expensive for some of us. But...you know your limits and I know there will be a situation that fits you perfectly very soon. I am happy to see though that you had your first match within 3 months of going active...that is sooo promising. Hang in there.
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i'm sorry about the financial complication of this match, but how encouraging that you were chosen! will be praying that your forever match happens soon!!
ReplyDeleteThat's great news you were matched so quickly, though I am sorry about the outcome. What a hard choice but very wise. Sending positive thoughts for you!
ReplyDeleteWhat a difficult and disappointing situation! I'm so sorry you had to turn the match down, but I'm proud of you for knowing your limits and sticking to them. I am hopeful the right match will come along SOON! Thinking of you.
ReplyDeleteHow tough! I would imagine that it was heart-breaking to turn it down. But it sounds like it was the only option. Hang in there!
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry. That must have been a really difficult decision for you. I know God has perfect plans in mind for you though - keep faith that your child will be in your arms soon. Praying for you and thinking about you!:)
ReplyDeletehang in there... it could be a sign of a perfect match to come!!
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry you had to turn it down, but it had to feel great to be chosen. Your match will come.
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