Well, it appears our birth mother may have distanced herself. She hasn't responded to any communication since Mid September. I only email her about once a month.
We were told this happens all the time so I shouldn't be surprised. I am a little bummed though. I guess she may decide to open back up later on. I talked with our social worker and she said after a couple months the birth mothers are happy to see their baby is being loved and taken care of, but they just may not be emotionally ready to respond to correspondence. She encouraged me to continue to touch base every couple months and to also continue to send official updates, letters, and pictures to the agency every 6 months.
Anyone else have similar experiences? Any birth mothers reading who would like to share?
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Our adopted twin girls were born in December 2009 and we got two letters from their birthmom- one right after we took them home and one a few months later and then in the past year and a half we haven't heard anything. We're not even sure if she's picking up the updates we've sent to the agency. It breaks my heart a little bit because I know my girls will ask about her one day and we won't have too much to show them... But I know it might be too painful for her to even want to attempt to deal with.
ReplyDeleteI don't have any experiences, but have heard this is the case also. I think I've heard after a year or so, they tend to start to come around again. It makes sense with the time to grieve, etc... I am sure it helps her to know she can look at this stuff when she's ready.
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